13 Main Wedding guest complaints at home town weddings and how they are all avoided by having a destination wedding!
4. Open Bar – you knew this one already right?! Guests get upset when they are paying for drinks all night. Don’t panic though you have lots of options. You don’t need to offer a full premium bar with Champagne all evening. You know your guests…overall we would suggest a beer and wine bar and add in two signature cocktails. This will reduce your beverage costs dramatically and the signature cocktails add a bit of fun and variety. Just let your planner know what type of drinks you would like to include and they can negotiate the price with the venue/caterer.
5. Bad Reception food…EEEEEKKKK. Apparently this is a major complaint from lots of unhappy wedding guests. We hear this frequently when chatting with guests who rave about the food (and wonderful taste of the wedding cake) at the Awesome Caribbean Wedding they are attending and shock us with stories of inedible meals and horrible cake and having to stop off on the way home at other weddings to grab a take out! Never leave this to chance. Use a reputable wedding planner who recommends only the best reception options and caterers that they have tried and tested and are completely happy with. Many destination wedding couples do not get the opportunity to visit the island before their wedding day so you need the peace of mind that your wedding celebration meal is going to be fabulous.
6. Don’t forget to ask if your guests have any food allergies or special meal requirements, highchairs needed or disabled access requirements. Include this on the RSVP for them to detail when they respond to you.
7. Reception seating can be a main grumble for guests. You can’t please everyone all the time but remember at a destination wedding everyone is in happy, relaxed holiday mode so they are much more easy going. Seating allocations avoid the ‘table rush’. It doesn’t need to be so formal as specific assigned seats at each table you can assign people to a table and they choose their seat. You can mix up your style of seating – maybe instead of a traditional head table with parents (therefore avoiding any upsets with split ups or new partners) have one with your bridal party and the parents and immediate family host tables close to yours. A ‘sweetheart table’ for just the two of you is an option our couples choose quite frequently. They get to have some quiet time together and then visit each table throughout the evening to connect with everyone. Depending on the size of your group it is popular currently to have long tables with the bride and groom seated centrally or heading a table – as long as the guests can see them it works.
It’s a good idea to seat other friends together grouped with a common link like university, work etc.
If you know your guests would appreciate meeting new people you can split the groups more but try to seat guests together who do have something in common. Your planner will be able to recommend and create a seating table plan at the venue of your choice.
Seat those most likely to be on the dance floor all evening closest to the DJ and those you know wont appreciate the volume of the music in a quieter spot.
8. This leads nicely onto another sticky area. The DJ/reception music and volume.
Trust me when I say there is a massive difference between a party/club DJ and a wedding DJ. Not many DJ’s have mastered the challenge of playing to a group with such a wide age range. A good wedding DJ will ask for your music preferences – genres, specific artists and specific songs. They will also need to know the music and specific song you really don’t like. Using this as a guide and their experience they can have everyone from 5 – 95 years old on the dance floor having a great time all night. The volume is important too. The music during your meal should be background – not at a volume where anyone has to overly raise their voice to chat to others.
All the regular guest niggles are being avoided at a destination wedding. Look out for the final part 3 next week.
If you would like to find out more about having your destination wedding with Awesome Caribbean Weddings in St. Lucia and enjoying the planning and your special day stress (and guest grumble) free contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org or fill out our short contact form and see what we can do for you…