The third and final part of our blogs about those guest grumbles and how to avoid them so your wedding will be remembered by you and everyone as ‘the best wedding ever’ and no ‘Except for….’ ‘but….’ ‘It was just….’ to be heard!
9. Invitation confusion
You may be worried how your guests will take your decisions about who is invited to your special celebration. You may have decided that it will be a child free day and be concerned about offending the parents on your list. How about cousin Jane who has just started dating a new guy who you have never met …. ? It is best to be very clear on your invitation who is invited to avoid any misunderstandings further down the line…especially after flights have been booked! To be really clear it is a good idea to include guests names on the RSVP. This will definitely make it clear to those who were thinking of bringing a date but may not be fully obvious to parents who even though the children’s names are not included on the invitation/RSVP may assume the children are invited.
You could include a further clarifying statement on the invitation such as;
‘No children please’
These may be a bit harsh so if you think that too how about something like this;
‘In order to allow all guests, including parents, a day of relaxation we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult only occasion. We hope this advance notice means you are still able to share our big day.’
It will cost you more to print on your invitations but could cause a lot less fallout!
Being a destination child free wedding does require your guests who are parents to get organised. Often we find those guests make arrangements for their kids to stay with relatives at home while they have a getaway together – good excuse for a second honeymoon! To help those bringing the children with them it would be a good idea to recommend accommodation that offers a babysitting service or suggest they bring along another relative who could look after the children on that day.
10. Wedding day/ events schedule unclear
Your guests will relax if they know what is going on and when and where! Post your schedule of events on your wedding website and direct all your guests to this site. It is good to include details of the transportation and timings of the different parts of the day, finish time and also where refreshments will be available so guests can know they don’t need to bring water with them during the day.
11. Guest Comfort
Keep your guests comfortable at your outdoor Caribbean destination wedding by providing paper parasols and fans (that can also do double duty as wedding programmes) http://www.theweddingoutlet.com/Wedding-Ceremony/Wedding-Programs
Also ask your wedding planner if there is shade at your outdoor location – trees are great and also ask if there is an option for a marquee tent if you would like more shade from the sun available or just in case of a quick shower.
LLLLOOOOONNNGGGGGG Speeches….one of the guest grumbles highest on the list! Make sure you choose who will be making speeches and ask them to keep to a ten minute maximum time. This also applies to the very popular photo montages – they are great and everyone enjoys watching them but keeping them to 10 – 15 minutes long will delight all and it will have had impact so everyone remembers the details.
13. Thank you
Finally don’t forget to say thank you. Your guests have travelled a long way to share your amazing day. However old school it seems guests really do appreciate a little ‘thank you’ note in the post. Try not to make them too generic. Personalise them –include a reference to their gift and any relevant funny or wonderful and memorable incidents/events during the time at your destination wedding. If notes are really not your thing you could make ‘thank you’ calls to all your guests instead. Just let them know you prefer to make a personal call instead of a note.
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